Boy! It sure has been interesting returning to Minnesota! Back to snow, 5-foot potholes and 100-yard dashes.
Although, I’m not a huge fan of winter, it really has been so nice to return home. The first weekend wasn’t so easy though. I’ll share a little on that and then we’ll continue. I was a bit ‘Chatty Kathy' in this one, so forgive me. :-D
Wowza! Yes, I told you it was a long one. Have any of you felt that way? Feeling alone, even when your beautiful children or family and friends are around? It’s like Dr. Suess says:
“I’m sorry to say so but, sadly, it’s true that Bang-ups and Hang-ups can happen to you.
You can get all hung up in a prickle-ly perch. And your gang will fly on. You’ll be left in a Lurch.
You’ll come down from the Lurch with an unpleasant bump. And the chances are, then, that you’ll be in a Slump.
And when you’re in a Slump, you’re not in for much fun. Un-slumping yourself is not easily done.”
But, the difference between us and that book, is that it ‘un-slumping’ ourselves is easy as we make it. And it only gets easier when you remain centered. When you take time for yourself...EVERYDAY! You, yes you, are an awesomely unique and beautiful being!
It’s ok to have a slump, but don’t let the slump prevent you from moving forward. Don’t let the slump dictate who you are or how you feel. Embrace the slump, ask it some questions, hug, release...then move on.
If you need to cry it out, go ahead! I love how Panache Desai talks about tears. He says, “Get your cry on. It’s just salty water.”
Another way you get through these slumps, is thinking about science. Yes, you read that right. I saw Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor speak at the Celebrate Your Life conference in Chicago last summer and I’ll never forget how she explained the human brain.
In your brain, lies the amygdala, an ‘almond-shaped set of neurons’ that reacts when it thinks you’re in danger. It’s like the ‘Oh Shoot!’ handle. Through neuroplasticity, you can actually change the circuitry of your brain and adjust how you react when the amygdala cries out! How do we change that circuit? Apply the 90-second rule. Here's how Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor describes it:
“Once triggered, the chemical released by my brain surges through my body and I have a physiological experience. Within 90 seconds from the initial trigger, the chemical component of my anger has completely dissipated from my blood and my automatic response is over. If, however, I remain angry after those 90 seconds have passed, then it is because I have chosen to let that circuit continue to run.”
By engaging the feeling, taking a few deep breathes and acknowledging the emotion, we can take a step back and respond from a place of truth and love. Next time, you feel yourself getting worked up or feel lonely and fearful, simply stop and breathe. Bring your hand down from the ‘Oh Shoot’ handle and love yourself.
I have found this especially helpful when mindfully parenting my son and in that morning rush-hour traffic. :-D
I love you all and want you to keep smiling!