So, I’ve found a pattern in my life. When choose to tell old stories about ourselves, the universe shows up to reflect those stories back to us.
I've realized I have a jaded view of dating. I've had a belief that guys are seeking instant gratification through the whole 'grass is greener on the other side' mentality. I let my guard down and let them in...but with suspicion and skepticism. Then boom! They treat me like a random girl! One to be tossed to the side. I just experienced it again, so I realize there is a lesson I'm meant to learn here. Here we grow again!
I can't do anything about dating in this day and age or how some people treat me, but I can most certainly change my thoughts to attract a kind, honest and loving man. I'm going to do an experiment over the next 40 days. This is Day 1!
Over the next 40 days I will be clearing clutter by:
- Simplify my home by clearing clutter and organizing to maximize efficiency
- Cleaning up my nutrition and sticking to my marathon training
- Daily Kundalini Yoga and meditation to cultivate a clear channel with God
- Clearing my mind by writing daily
- Clear out space-fillers in my life
Clutter…just the word alone fogs my mind. When we surround ourselves with clutter, whether it be physical, emotional or even energetic, we don’t leave room for the miracles. You could be holding on to weight, material possessions or an old relationship. You are worth so much more though. Stop letting those things define you.
We can get into our heads when it comes to these things. Take the guy I went out with last. We connected amazingly well, but his word became fleeting. Actually, his presence became fleeting too…without explanation.
Ladies, know that if a guy is interested, he will make his presence known. He will keep in touch. Don’t be afraid to admit that he’s just not that into you. This clears space for your unicorn lover to enter the picture.
Back to decluttering. Do you delete this man and others like him from your social media platforms? Is he more of a friend or a space-filler. It can seem harsh or rude, but this is the time to listen within. Set the intention of releasing them with love. You could even have a little goodbye before you hit the button. This button doesn’t have to reflect a permanent decision, but it represents right now, which is where we want to be.
So, I just let go of that guy who I had a real connection with. The problem was that there was a disconnect in our communication. It was the same old case of the guy being super attentive when he’s interested or wants to hang, but then going AWOL when they’re ‘busy’ or after you’ve been intimate. I’m not saying that a guy needs to be communicating with you all day long, but if you’re talking relationship one day and then the next, he’s too busy to say hi…he’s probably not that into you. Just sayin’.
The old me would cling onto a friendship with hope that he would one day see my worth or just because we had a connection. Not anymore. When you bring up your feelings multiple times and they dismiss them…CUT. THE. CORDS! Maybe you'll be able to build a honest friendship or more in the future, but why start one on shaky foundation.
The old me would also hang on to clothes I don't wear anymore, just in case I need them someday. Or those books. Or craft supplies. Or...you name it. I've hung not friendships that sucked me dry because I didn't want to be rude. I put my daily meditation practice or self-care routine on the back-burner to go on a date or to accommodate people who aren't real stake-holders in my life. So...here we go! Day 1 of Operation Declutter commences! Wish me luck!